Looking back, I settled in every romantic relationship I had. I was a bit desperate for someone to love me so I lived with "good enough" for so long. Good enough left me feeling incredibly unhappy 😔 I ended up being used, emotionally abused, disrespected, and manipulated to name a few. Here's the thing -- I was allowing that behavior, I was settling for it 👈 I played out this same pattern in my professional life as well. Settling for employers who didn't value me and it showed in the way I was treated. Again, I was allowing this to be in my life 👈 Settling is a choice and it has everything to do with how much we value ourselves 👈 How much love and respect we have for our life 🤍👈 When we see ourselves as unimportant, not worthy of receiving the best -- we settle. Settling doesn't feel good. On a deep heartfelt level we know we deserve better - and - we have to be willing to call that better situation or circumstance into our life 👍 The better situation exists, it does. Even if it means being single for a while or shifting directions in one's career -- it exists 👈 When we truly begin to value ourselves and show it, show it to ourselves -- Life begins to open new doors. Often the door can be one that we didn't know existed or could think to ask for 👈 It'll open up once you really, truly begin to value yourself more and take action from that place 👈 My life is a testament to this journey -- time and time again 👍 If this all sounds good but you just don't know how to value yourself, reach out and say hello, I'd love to hear from you 👋 Blessings Today & Always, Timothy 🕊
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I'm going to be completely real -- it may have much more to do with You than it does with them ⬅️ (Let that one sink in) This is NOT to make you feel bad. This is NOT for you to judge yourself. This is NOT for you to feel awful. It IS to help you have more self-awareness. Self Awareness that may dramatically impact the health and well-being of your relationships. Yes, How You Are Showing Up is where you have the power to make significant adjustments ⬅️ For example: • Do you judge and criticize their choices? (even mentally) • Do you think you know more about what's good for them than they do? • Do you tell them what to think? • Do you tell them to stop doing things that you wouldn't do? • Do you need to be "right" and win the conversation? • Do you fail to communicate your boundaries? • Are you afraid to be your true self in the relationship? All of these can add stress ⬅️ What if you could practice, • Radical acceptance for how they live their life. • Communicating your boundaries as you need. • Allowing them to have their point of view. • Looking for the common ground in your discussions. • Being okay with who you are and not needing their approval. These very practices have RADICALLY changed my relationships ⬅️⬅️ They take practice and become easier with time. Let me know if this post resonates with you in the comments below ⬇️ This is what I've learned from my own experience. First and foremost there are healthy and unhealthy relationships. I'm talking about generally healthy relationships that tend to have many ups and downs and ongoing stress if you will ⬅️ This is a question I've learned to ask and be aware of. "Am I adding stress to this relationship that I haven't been willing to see as of yet?" For example, if you feel you know what's best for your family members and tell them every chance you get how they could improve their life (uninvited), this could be a real cause of stress in the relationship ⬅️ Allow them to find their way in life. If they tell you aspects of their life are not working and they don't know what to do -- ask. Ask if they're open to hearing your thoughts on the matter. If you get a "yes." Offer your insights with compassion, love, and non-judgment. Speak to them with the understanding you'd want someone to have for you. And -- be unattached to their response ⬅️ Share without a need for them to agree or implement whatever it is you're offering. If they continue to ask questions, "Offer what you will with even more love and trust your intuitive flow." No one wants to be told how to live their life, uninvited ⬅️ As you learn how to in-joy them as they are, without needing to "improve" them -- watch the amount of stress in the relationship begin to decrease ⬅️ At least, that's my intuitive prediction 🙂 |
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